What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship used by one partner to gain or maintain control over another intimate partner. It can include physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological abuse.
Some of the examples of domestic abuse include:
- Being hit, slapped, pushed, or shoved.
- Being forced to engage in unwanted sexual acts.
- Facing excessive criticism about your appearance or actions.
- Being prevented from working, pursuing hobbies, or spending time with friends.
- Having your activities excessively monitored, such as through your phone.
- Being followed, threatened, or made to feel unsafe.
What Causes Domestic Violence?
Several factors can contribute to domestic violence, including:- Childhood abuse: Often, people who were abused in early childhood are likely to become abusers.
- Substance use: The use of drugs and alcohol often increases the risk of domestic violence.
- Mental health issues: Sometimes, mental health disorders can lead to feelings of anger and domestic abuse.
The Effects of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence can have profound and lasting effects on victims, including:- Emotional trauma: Victims often experience anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as a result of the abuse.
- Physical health issues: The physical injuries sustained can lead to long-term health problems, including chronic pain and disabilities.
- Social isolation: Victims may become isolated from their support networks, making recovery more challenging.
Why Do People Go Through Domestic Violence?
Domestic abuse is a complex situation involving multiple factors, such as stigma and fear. You may wonder, “Why don’t they just leave?”. It is important to remember that domestic violence is not the victim’s fault. Sometimes, leaving can create a more dangerous situation for the victim. Some other reasons people experience domestic violence include:- Past abuse or trauma
- No family or social support
- High stress
- Mental health issues
- Cultural norms that perpetuate abuse
Can I Tell My Therapist About Domestic Violence?
You can and should tell your therapist if you are experiencing domestic abuse. Therapy is a safe space for you to share your experience and trauma and be vulnerable in allowing you to heal. Our therapists provide a secure and comfortable environment for you to process your experience. In therapy, you can explore the effects that domestic violence has on your mental state, help you develop coping strategies, and create a safety plan. Therapists are mandated to report child or elderly abuse or if they believe you will harm yourself or someone else. Therapists are not mandated to report domestic abuse.
What Type of Therapist Handles Domestic Violence?
It can be difficult to find a good trauma therapist for domestic violence. Try to look for licensed clinical social workers, licensed professional counselors, licensed marriage and family therapists, and clinical psychologists. Some therapists specialize in treating domestic abuse trauma. Make sure your therapist has experience in working with clients dealing with the same issues as you. With her expertise in evidence-based therapies like EMDR, CBT, and DBT, Liz Chelak can help you regain control of your life and find inner peace.
Who Benefits From Domestic Violence Therapy?
Survivors of domestic violence abuse can benefit from therapy by learning to take back control of their lives, increase self-esteem, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.Embrace Healing The Power of Trust in Therapeutic Relationships
“In my experience, the most effective aspect of therapy is the therapeutic relationship. Establishing trust between a client and clinician is the first step to healing.”
How to Stop Domestic Violence?
It can be daunting to take action against domestic violence. Here are some steps you can take:- Create a safety plan: Have a safe place to stay when needed; develop a code word with friends and family; keep a bag packed with essentials and important documents. Create a long-term plan before leaving that involves housing and social support.
- Seek help: A therapist can help you learn to set and enforce boundaries, create a plan, and recover from domestic abuse.
- Take legal action: You can get an order of protection to protect yourself and prevent the likeliness of your abuser hurting you.
- Social support: Going through domestic abuse alone can be difficult. Having the support of your family and friends can make recovering from domestic abuse more manageable.
How to Help Victims of Domestic Violence?
If you know someone who has experienced domestic violence, you can help by:- Believing your loved one when they share their experience. Domestic violence often happens behind closed doors, so the person telling you their experience puts their trust in you. Take the time to listen and just be there.
- Ask what your loved one needs. Don’t assume they are looking for a solution. Sometimes, a domestic violence survivor wants you to listen; sometimes, they want advice, and sometimes they want support. Just ask.
- Don’t judge them. It is often difficult and scary to leave a domestic violence situation for fear of more violence. Respect your loved one’s wishes.
- Educate yourself. Learn about the experiences of domestic violence survivors and the resources available to be able to help your loved one.
- Be patient. Recovery from domestic abuse is not linear. Sometimes, people may fall back into old habits. Continue being supportive and let your loved one know you are always there for them.